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I am simply curious what other people think. I am already set on my views. It's just that recently someone that I was dating and recently became "just friends" with (even though it just feels like we're on a break whatever that means) told me that he had "opened communication" with his backup during the 2 weeks we weren't talking to each other. I don't know if he's still talking to that person...
I don't understand the whole concept. It's nice to be realistic, we all go through breakups and it's not fun being alone, but how can you fully be committed to the relationship you're in (whether you're dating or anything more serious) when you have an escape route already planned?
At this point we're not in an exclusive relationship, so even though I think backups are wrong and he spoke to his "backup" I don't think I can really condemn him for it. He has told me in the past that I'm the only person that he wants to be with and that he's willing to be friends with the hopes that we'll become more than friends later. I had changed our relationship to "just friends" but then realized that I just wanted a little space and was starting to make efforts to see if we should start dating again if he was ok with it, but then he mentions his backup. I'm wondering now if he's just trying to make me jealous or hurt my feelings... (he's done a few other things to make me think so)
abegi shine your eyes jor ! men have backups of backups of backups some get server sef ! Woman must survive na
I think you have every reason to be angry … I don’t think the guy know what he truly wants..I will advice to follow your mind gurl .
This isn't even an issue! This experience is meant to reveal one thing to you; that you don't love yourself enough to go for the best in relationships. This relationship was unhealthy from the word go. But you stuck around because of your desperate need for attention.
You must never love another man again until you have first learned to love yourself. The rule is, "love thy neighbour as thy self" and not " love thy neighbour MORE THAN thy self".
If for four years he took you for granted, should you go back to him, he will continue to do that. Even if he apologises, there may not always be a second chance unless you don't mind being taken for granted again.
Know that apology and repentance are two different things. You deserve somebody better; someone who knows and appreciate your worth.
They have all answered you here correctly. So, the ball is in your court. If I were you I would have left a long time ago. Why would you stay in a relationship where the man has no time for you? Is it that bad? Please, leave the man alone and look elsewhere. By the way, you don't need any back up. You need the real deal.
Lady u have no reason to be angry bcos u knew he has that other girl b4 u went after him, secondly ,from what u wrote here, i understand u are paraniod as u claim, too much jalous without reason always irritate men in a relationship, so you got what u deserve in that 4yrs relationship bcos u knew he has the other girl madly in love with him yet for flew to him ,so no need to be jalouse,u got what you asked for,u are free to date around as u usually do until u met him ,is upto u . PERIOD and MATTER CLOSE