Being hard to get is a response to one of the most
basic truths of human nature:
Humans love a feeling of accomplishment. We love to
work for something valuable and finally obtain it.
We tend to scorn what is handed to us too easily.
We rarely appreciate things which come too easily.
We value the things which are elusive - harder to
reach, harder to find, harder to get.
As humans, we are created to thrive on desire. Here's
a newsflash: You can't desire something you already
have!
As with many other realities of life, many people
are unhappy about this truth of human nature and
waste precious energy fighting against it. They
regard it with suspicion and even hostility - even
though the truth of it stares them in the face
every day.
They may as well be fighting against the sun rising
and setting, because their discomfort is not going
to change the facts of life! There's just no denying
it - being hard to get is a fundamental principle of
human nature and particularly, romance. It can even
be the make-or-break factor.
Lots of books and articles say that they disagree
with being hard to get and "playing games," but then
they proceed to tell people to do the exact same
things that you do when you're "hard to get"!
By the way, when did "games" get such a bad name?
So games are okay when it's checkers, but not okay
when it comes to romance? Gee, what Sad Sack came
up with that rule? The kind of "games" we're talking
about will keep you healthy, happy, and having the
time of your life - and so will he.
This theme of human nature has been well known
throughout the ages of time. When you can't get
something easily - people want it more. Not only
that, but the price-tag goes up too. (Check your
local market.)
Hard to Get is a time-honored principle for a
reason - it has helped hundreds of thousands
of women to learn the meaning of valuing themselves
and using self-restraint and self-discipline when
some of their strongest urges could have resulted
in actions that would have NOT worked in their
best interests in the long run.
Love is a game - the
most wonderful "game" ever invented. Play to win.
Play hard.... to get!
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