Although dating is not rocket science, the experience sometimes feels like science fiction. Often, unrealistic expectations lead to needless dating drama. The following steps provide actual ways to make dating a pleasant experience for both of you.
Steps
- Stop complaining. The good ones are not all taken. If they were, you would be sipping mai tais on a beach with your beloved right now.
- Be less critical. Are super models breaking down your door begging you for attention? Are moguls whisking you away to Spain for tapas? No? Perhaps, it's time to accept a date simply because someone was lovely enough to ask you.
- Use your manners. Please don't be rude. Saying please and thank you will make moms proud and endear you to your date. Promptly returning phone calls, whether or not you plan to accept an invitation, is appropriate and respectful. "Coy" is for the fish.
- Step outside of your box. Insanity is doing the same thing twice and expecting a different result. In other words, every time you tick off your list of "must haves and can't dos" you limit yourself to dating similar people. Has that worked for you so far?
- Have original date ideas at your disposal. These can include physically active dates (such as mountain biking or rock climbing) to creative dates (such as going to a pottery or ballroom dancing class).
- Have fun! Even if you're 10 minutes into the worst date ever, a sense of humor goes a long way. Every hideous detail can be used later to regale your friends with laughter.
Tips
- Turning someone down with aplomb can happen if you remember three things, say thank you, be clear and use empathy.
- Turning a first date into a second date can happen if you remember the following: say thank you; treat someone they way you would like to be treated; and smile.
Warnings
People can be creepy. Stepping out side of your box does not mean ignoring your gut. If a person or a situation doesn't feel right, trust your instinct and move on.
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