Attack Sequence 1: Direct Questioning• Stage 1. Ask your question directly.• Give no advance warning of the subject you’re about to bring up or of any feelings of mistrust.• Never reveal what you know first. Ask questions to gather information to see if it’s consistent withwhat you already know.• The way you present yourself can greatly influence the attitude of the other person. Three powerfultips for establishing building rapport:1. Matching posture and movements – if he has one hand in his pocket, you put your hand in yours.2. Matching speech – if he’s speaking in a slow, relaxed tone, you do the same.3. Matching key words – if he’s prone to using certain words or phrases, use them when speaking.• Ask a question that you know will produce a response similar to how you expect him to react. In otherwords, if he waves his arms around no matter what he’s talking about, you want to know this.• Use a relaxed and non-threatening posture, and square off so that you’re facing each other.• Never, ever interrupt. You can’t learn anything new while you’re talking. Ask open-ended questions.• Stage 2. Silence.• Stage 3. Really? At the end of his answer respond with “Really?”• Stage 4. Sudden Death. Follow with “Is there anything you want to get off your chest?”Attack Sequence 2: Lead and Confine• Stage 1. Ask a leading question. For example, “you were back by two A.M. last night, weren’t you?”• Stage 2. Reverse course: You’ve got to be kidding! For example, “I was hoping you did, so you would havegotten it out of your system. Please tell me that you’ve done it, so I know that it’s over with.”• Stage 3. This is not going to work. For example, “I thought you were somebody who had a sense of adventure.Someone who knows how to live a little.”Attack Sequence 3: Time Line Distortion• Scenario: You suspect several employees in your store of stealing money• Stage1. Setting the scene. Let the conversation turn casually to stealing and say, “Oh, I knew right from thestart what was going on.”• Stage 2. It’s no big deal. “You had to know I knew. How else do you think you could have gotten away with itfor so long? I hope you don’t think I’m a complete idiot.”• Stage 3. I appreciate what you’ve done. “I know that you were just going along with it because you werescared of what the others would do. It’s really okay. I know you’re not that kind of person.”Attack Sequence 4: Direct Assumption / Shot in the Dark• Stage 1. Set the scene. Be somewhat curt and standoffish, as if something heavy-duty is bothering you. Thiswill cause his mind to race to find ways to explain the “error of his ways.”• Stage 2. I’m hurt. Say, “I’ve just found something out and I’m really hurt [shocked/surprised]. I know you’regoing to lie to me and try to deny it, but I just wanted you to know that I know.” You establish that (a) he’sguilty of something and (b) you know what it is.• Stage 3. Holding your ground. Say, “I think we both know what I’m talking about. We need to clear the air,and we can start by your talking.”• Stage 4. Continue to hold your ground. Repeat phrases such as “I’m sure it will come to you” and “The longer Iwait, the madder I’m getting.”• Stage 5. Apply social pressure. “We were all talking about it. Everybody knows.” Now he begins to getcurious about who knows and how they found out. As soon as he tries to find out, you’ll know he’s guilty.Attack Sequence 5: The Missing Link• Scenario: You think that your mother-in-law may have hired a private investigator to follow you around.• Stage 1. List facts. Tell her something that you know to be true. “I know you’re not very fond of me, and thatyou objected to the wedding, but this time you’ve gone too far.”• Stage 2. State your assumption. “I know all about the investigator. Why did you think that was necessary?”• Stage 3. The magic phrase. “You know what, I’m too upset to talk about this now.” The guilty person willhonor your request because she won’t want to anger you further. An innocent person will be mad at you foraccusing her of something that she hasn’t done and will want to discuss it now.Attack Sequence 6: Who, Me?• Stage1. Setting the scene. He suspects that his ex-girlfriend broke into his house. He phoned to let her know ina very non-accusatory way that that there had been a break-in and some items were missing. The following typeof conversation would ensue:Winston: The police are going to want to talk to everyone who had access to the house. Since youstill have a key, they’re going to want to speak with you. Just routine stuff, I’m sure. Ofcourse you’re not a suspect.Ex-Girlfriend: But I don’t know anything about it.Winston: Oh, I know. Just policy, I guess. Anyway, one of my neighbors said that she got apartial license-plate number on a car that was by my house that day.Ex-Girlfriend: (After a long pause) Well, I was driving around your neighborhood that day. Istopped by to see if you were home. But when you weren’t, I just left.Winston: Oh, really? Well, they did a fingerprint test too. That should show something.Ex-Girlfriend: What test?Winston: Oh, they dusted for prints and…• Stage 2. Inform non-accusatorily. Casually inform your suspect of the situation.• Stage 3. Introduce evidence to be rebutted. As you introduce the evidence, look to see if every one of yourstatements is met by explanations from him as to how the evidence could be misunderstood. For example, yoususpect that a co-worker had shredded some of your files. You would first set the stage by letting him knowthat you can’t find some important files. Then say, “Well, it’s a good thing my new secretary noticed someoneby the shredder the other day. She said she recognized his face but didn’t know his name.” An innocent personwould not feel the need to explain in order to avert the possibility that he might be wrongly accused.• Stage 4. Continue. Continue with more facts that the person can try to explain away. But in actuality, as soonhe starts to talk about why the situation might “look that way,” you know you have him.Attack Sequence 7: Outrageous Accusations• Stage 1. Accuse him of everything. In a very fed-up manner, accuse him of doing every imaginable dishonestand disloyal act.• Stage 2. Introduce the suspicion. Now introduce the one thing you feel he really has done, and in an attempt toclear himself of the other charges, he will offer an explanation for his one slip-up. Say, “I mean, it’s not likeyou just stole a file, that would be fine. But all these other things are unspeakable.” He responds, “No, I juststole that one file because of the pressure to get the job done, but I would never sell trade secrets!” The onlyway to prove his innocence to all of your outrageous accusations is to explain why he did what you reallysuspect of him of doing.• Stage 3. Step in closer. This increases anxiety in the guilty. He feels he’s being closed in on.Attack Sequence 8: Is There a Reason?• Stage 1. Introduce a fact. For example, if you want to know if your secretary went out last night when she saidshe was sick, “I drove by your house on the way home. Is there a reason your car wasn’t in the driveway?”Had she been home sick, she would simply tell you that you were wrong – the car was in the driveway.• Stage 2. One more shot. “Oh, that’s odd, I called your house and I got your machine.” If she’s guilty she willlook for any way to make her story fit your facts.• Stage 3. Stare. Staring makes someone who is on the defensive feel closed in; your glare is infringing on herpersonal space, inducing a mental claustrophobia. Lock eyes with her and ask again.Attack Sequence 9: Third-Party Confirmation• Scenario: You suspect one of your employees is having someone else punch out on the time clock for him.• Stage 1. Accuse outright. After gaining the assistance of a friend or coworker, you have this person make theaccusation for you. Such as “Mel, I was talking to Cindy, and she told me she’s getting pretty tired of yourhaving someone else punch out for you so you can leave work early.” At this point Mel is concerned only withCindy’s disapproval of his actions. Your friend is thoroughly believable because we rarely think to questionthis type of third-party setup.• Stage 2. Are you kidding? “Are you kidding? It’s common knowledge, but I think I know how you can smooththings over with her.” See if he take the bait. A person who’s innocent would not be interested in smoothingthings over with someone else for something that he hasn’t done.• Stage 3. Last call. “Okay. But are you sure? At this point, any hesitation is likely to be sign of guilt becausehe’s quickly trying to weight his options.Attack Sequence 10: The Chain Reaction• Scenario: You suspect several employees in your store of stealing money• Stage 1. Setting the scene. In a one-on-one meeting with the employee, let them know that you’re looking forsomeone to be in charge of a new internal theft program for the entire company.• Stage 2. The iron is… “We’re looking for someone who knows how it’s done. Now don’t worry, you’re notgoing to get in trouble. As a matter of fact we’ve known about it for some time. We were more interested inseeing how efficient you were. Quite impressive. Anyway, we feel that since you know how it’s done, you’llknow how to prevent it. Granted, it’s pretty unusual, but this is an unusual instance.”• Stage 3. I told them so. “You know, I told them that you would be too afraid to have an open discussion aboutthis. They were wrong, I was right.” Look for hesitation on his part. If he’s guilty, he will be weighing hisoptions. This takes time. An innocent person has nothing to think about. Only the guilty have the option ofconfessing or not.
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