If you listen to a group of attractive, single
women talking alone over dinner or drinks, the
topic will always turn to MEN.
And in most cases, it will eventually turn into
a RANT session about how hard it is to find good
men to date...
Which will lead to a FULL-ON RAG SESSION about
men in general...
...And wind up with a detailed list of all the
traits guys have that are ANNOYING AS HELL.
The reality is that single women have an entire
laundry list of traits, qualities, and
characteristics that they HATE in single guys.
Did you know this?
I didn't think so.
Well, the truth is that up until a few years
ago, I didn't know this either.
So take heart in the idea that you're about to
learn something that most men on this planet will
DIE not knowing.
My hope is that what I'm about to share with
you will change how you interact with women
FOREVER... and help you meet and date more of the
kinds of women you're interested in.
FRIENDSHIPS AND ROMANCE
For women, friendships and romantic
relationships are two separate things. They are
NOT the same.
One can lead to another, but it's RARE when it
One CAN lead to another, but it's RARE.
"Romantic" relationships are very different
from "friend" relationships.
While most men would sleep with most of their
female "friends" if the woman "came on" to them,
most women would NOT sleep with most men that they
consider "just friends".
But why is this?
How do women differentiate between "just
friends" and "I'll be intimate with you"?
And why is it so hard to become "more than
friends" with a woman you've been "just friends"
with for a long time?
The answer to this riddle is very interesting
I believe that the answer comes down to
understanding HOW women "know" when they want to
"be intimate" with a man... and, even MORE
importantly, understanding how women "know" when
they DON'T want to "be intimate" with a man...
The thing that tells a woman whether the guy
she's with is "friend" material or "lover"
material is how she FEELS.
It's a combination of EMOTIONAL feelings and
It is NOT logic.
She might USE logic to "rationalize" her
decision... or she might USE logic to SOUND like
she has a good reason for either "being with" or
"not being with" a particular guy.
But don't let that distract you.
Logic isn't important AT ALL in this context.
So let me say this another way.
A woman FEELS something emotionally and/or
physically, then she uses those FEELINGS as the
basis for her "decisions" and actions with a
If she feels that "Ewwww Yuck!" feeling, then
her "logical" conclusion will probably not be that
she wants to date the guy in question.
If she feels that "It's Gettin' Hot In Here"
feeling, then her "logical" conclusion will
probably be that this guy is interesting and
attractive, and a good "choice" to date. At this
point she'll take ACTION on her feelings and
It goes like this:
First the FEELING, then the THOUGHT... and THEN
Now, with this in mind, let me ask you an
How do most guys behave around women that
they're "romantically" interested in?
What do they do to get the woman that's the
object of their desires to be with them?
Take a few minutes to think about this. Make a
list if you have paper and pen handy.
I'm serious. I'll wait.
Come back when you're finished.
Now take a look at your list.
I'll bet that almost every single thing on your
list was something "external".
In other words, your list probably contains
things like "Take her to dinner" and "Give her
compliments" and "Buy her flowers" and "Call her
These are all things that demonstrate that he's
They are NOT things that trigger those
emotional and physical feelings inside of a woman
that tell her that THIS IS THE GUY.
In other words, men try to use "props" to LET A
WOMAN KNOW HE'S INTERESTED...
...HOPING that when the woman sees these
displays she'll be interested in him.
Almost NONE of the things men do to court women
make women FEEL ANYTHING even remotely similar to
"Attraction" and "Arousal".
Of course, you know this.
You've probably done this stuff about a
bazillion times. I have, too. I know what it's
like to try OVER AND OVER to let a particular
woman know that I'm interested... only to have her
NOT RESPOND in a "romantic" way.
The PROBLEM with this kind of thing is that it
makes TWO HUGE MISTAKES at once.
First, it's just the plain-old wrong way to go.
Telling or showing a woman that you "like her" has
no effect on how she feels about YOU.
In the moment it sure seems to make sense...
"If I show her how I feel, she'll return the
Like I said, it seems like the right thing to
do in the moment (when your inner little girl has
a big fat crush). But it's not... it will have NO
effect on her feelings for you.
And second, it communicates clearly that YOU
DON'T GET IT. It tips a woman off INSTANTLY that
you're not hip to what's going... and it kills
your chances with her.
You mean that doing nice things for women, and
trying to show how you feel can actually HURT your
chances with a woman?
Yea, it can.
Look, if you've been dating a woman exclusively
for six months, and her birthday comes... it's OK
to buy her a gift and tell her that you like
spending time with her.
YOU'RE ALREADY IN A RELATIONSHIP.
But if you've known a woman for six DAYS and
you try this kind of thing, you're going to shoot
yourself in the foot.
Women are EXPERTS at recognizing men who DON'T
GET IT. And if you DON'T get it, PLUS you're
trying to compensate for the fact that you don't
get it with gifts and compliments, then you're
REALLY screwed (or not screwed, as the case may
Remember what I'm about to tell you.
Burn it into your mind.
Write it on a sticky-note and put it on your
SINGLE, ATTRACTIVE WOMEN WATCH MEN TRY TO WIN
THEM OVER ALL DAY LONG. THEY KNOW WHEN A GUY
DOESN'T "GET IT"... AND THEY'RE ANNOYED WHEN A GUY
WHO DOESN'T "GET IT" JUST KEEPS TRYING AND TRYING
Keep in mind that single, attractive women
watch guys do this stuff 24/7. They shake their
pretty heads and say "He doesn't get it... He
doesn't get it... He doesn't get it" over and over
The point is that if you DON'T GET IT, then
nothing you do is going to work for you.
The problem is bigger than you can imagine, and
you're going to need to take a totally different
road to get where you're going...
WHAT ATTRACTIVE WOMEN HATE MOST ABOUT SINGLE GUYS...
Let's return to where we started.
There are a few particular things that REALLY
annoy single, attractive women.
One of the reasons that these things annoy
women is because they're DEAL KILLERS.
A woman can like everything about you, but if
you do these things (or even ONE of these things),
it can DESTROY your chances of success with a
Here are a few of the BIG things that single
1) Giving Up Your Status In Exchange For Her
Attention And Approval
If I had to describe the one single thing that
both annoys women and DESTROYS a guy's chances, it
would be this.
It has taken me a long time to see this
particular pattern, but it's EVERYWHERE.
Men, in effect, say "Hi, I want your approval
and attention. I'm willing to let YOU be the one
who's in control... and let YOU call the shots...
and do anything to please YOU... if you'll give me
your attention and approval".
But the problem is that women DON'T WANT you to
give up your status and "manliness".
Women aren't ATTRACTED to men who act weak and
Women secretly HATE IT when a guy does
something to demonstrate that he'll give away his
power in return for approval.
THEY HATE IT!
I could literally write an entire book on this
one single concept.
Take a few minutes to think this one over, and
maybe write down the ways that you make this
mistake with women.
More importantly, think about how you're going
to STOP DOING IT IMMEDIATELY.
2) Being Needy, Clingy, And Insecure
When one person "clings" to another person
"psychologically", the person who is being
"clinged to" RESENTS and REJECTS the needy, clingy
This is WUSS behavior at its worst.
If a guy is on the phone with a girl he just
met, and she says "Hey, I have to go", he might
say "Aw, well... um... OK. Um, will you call me
when you get home?".
Or let's say a guy and a girl are out on their
first date, and they're walking around in a large
Most guys will follow the woman everywhere, and
not leave her side for a minute.
If she wanders away, he'll come find her
He'll stay physically close to her, as if he's
afraid she'll leave without him.
And an even worse example is a guy who is so
emotionally insecure that he actually ASKS a woman
to tell him that he's nice, fun, interesting, etc.
"Do you think I'm interesting?"
"Do you think we could ever have a
"Am I your type?"
Women HATE this stuff. It makes them shiver
with the heebie-jeebies. It makes them want to RUN
3) Not Leading - And Even Worse, Trying To Get Her
Women have WUSS-DAR.
One of the things that triggers a woman's WUSS-
DAR is a man who FOLLOWS.
The REAL problem is that most women won't try
to LEAD naturally.
So you've got a situation where a man is trying
to FOLLOW a woman who isn't LEADING.
He's looking for little cues so he knows where
to go and what to do... but he isn't getting them.
So what does he do?
He ASKS for them!
He says "So, I was thinking of maybe taking you
to Olive Garden for dinner... how does that
Everything about the way he asks says to the
woman "I'm trying to figure out what you want me
to do... please help me know how you want me to
act, where you want me to take you, and what you
want me to say".
This is ATTRACTION DEATH!
Men who don't lead, and even worse, try to get
a woman to lead, ANNOY THE HELL OUT OF SINGLE
They HATE IT!
4) Using Insecure, Approval-Seeking, Low- Status
Posture, Gestures, Voice Tone, And Body Language
There's a term that single, attractive, in-
demand women use to describe men who use weak,
approval-seeking posture, gestures, comments, and
The term is "NICE".
"He's nice... but... there's no chemistry."
This is one of those areas that's not easy to
Since SO DAMN MANY GUYS do this stuff, it's
almost impossible to explain.
It's like trying to tell a fish that they're
not going to get anywhere in life if they stay
The fish doesn't even KNOW it's wet in the
But let me try.
This is important.
Go spend a day observing couples.
Go places where couples that have just met
spend time together.
Bars, clubs, coffee shops, whatever.
Now watch the GUYS.
Watch how they lean towards the women.
Watch how they raise their eyebrows in
exaggerated response to women's comments.
Watch how they slump over, let their shoulders
fall forward, and smile fake-ly at whatever the
If you're close enough, listen to how men ask
questions and make comments with a voice tone that
says "I'm insecure and I'm trying to be extra nice
to compensate for it".
You'll see it EVERYWHERE.
In fact, you'll see it so much that you'll
probably write me back to tell me that I'm the one
who's crazy, and that since it happens so much, it
must be "the right way".
Well, it's not.
If there's one thing that triggers an
attractive single woman's WUSS-DAR, it's a man's
posture, gestures, eye contact, voice tone, etc.
It all happens in an INSTANT.
Women read this stuff and interpret it as
instantly and accurately as you read and interpret
the cover of Playboy.
NO ANALYSIS NECESSARY.
I'd say that probably 90% of all men alive
today INSTANTLY disqualify themselves with women
because of this problem.
Their voice tone, gestures, posture, etc.
TELEGRAPH the message that they're a WUSS.
They do a thousand weird little things to let a
woman know that they're uncomfortable and "not
And you guessed it...
Single women HATE IT!
5) Not Understanding That She's A Woman And You're
I'm about to get philosophical on your ass, so
When it comes down to it, most men don't
But the REAL kicker is that most men don't
understand MEN, either!
Most guys don't know what it's like to get in
touch with their MALE NATURE.
Combine these two issues, and you get a guy who
behaves in ways that DO NOT trigger ATTRACTION in
Women have a "nature". A female nature.
Men also have a "nature". You guessed it, it's
a MALE nature.
Women are coy. They like to play hard to get.
They like to enjoy the chase. They love
anticipation. They love to "let a guy catch
Men are competitive. Men are dominant. Men like
to play rough games, win things, and rule their
Well guess what?
Most men don't BEHAVE like men when they're in
the presence of a woman that they "like".
And since most men don't understand female
human nature, they don't demonstrate that they
"get it" when they're with women that they "like".
Women like men. Men like women. There are
POWERFUL causes at play here.
When you're around a woman you like, don't act
like a GIRLY-MAN. It's not sexy, and it's not
And single women HATE IT!
6) Not Being Interesting To Be Around
Underneath most behavior that I see most guys
acting out is a "core belief" that goes like this:
"I don't believe that an attractive woman would
want to be around me just because she enjoys my
presence... so I make up for it by saying and
doing certain things that I hope she'll enjoy...
and if she enjoys those other things enough, then
maybe she'll want to spend more time with me."
Well guess what? Most attractive single women
KNOW that if a guy isn't interesting to be around,
they she's eventually going to go CRAZY being
In other words, no amount of material gifts,
compliments, dinners, and other "displays" will
EVER compensate for a lack of BEING INTERESTING.
Here's a profound thought:
I and several other guys I know have many women
who call us often... just because they enjoy being
These women would be happy just to be in the
same room with us... and enjoy our company.
And yes, these women CALL US.
Material gifts, food, flowers, and other
"displays" have ZERO lasting value to a woman when
it comes to how she FEELS about you...
An attractive single woman wants a guy who
LIGHTS HER UP. She wants to FEEL GOOD.
She wants mystery... she wants to laugh... she
wants a challenge... she wants sexual tension...
If you're using compliments, gifts, food, and
other "displays" to get a woman's attention... you
need to ask yourself a tough question:
Is it because you don't believe that a woman
would want to be around you just to be around you?
Because if you don't know how to be INTERESTING
to a woman, then no amount of compensation is
going to fix the problem.
If you're boring, predictable, and
uninteresting, then you're never going to have
women calling YOU to hang out.
Oh, and women HATE IT.
7) Not Understanding Attraction
This is a BIGGIE.
You hear me talking about it all the time,
Maybe now that you've read this newsletter
you'll have a better context to understand what
I'm about to tell you...
If you "get it" with women, it's SUPER
INTERESTING and ATTRACTIVE to them.
Women can INSTANTLY FEEL IT when they're with a
guy who "gets it".
Women know very quickly if they're talking to a
guy who understands himself and women... and who
enjoys creating and building sexual tension.
Women know if a guy speaks the SECRET LANGUAGE
of "Sexual Communication".
If he doesn't, then she stops all communication
on that level.
If he does, then it continues.
ATTRACTION Isn't A Choice.
Attraction is an emotional and physical
RESPONSE... and you can't "convince" a woman to
feel it with logic, gifts, and NICENESS.
Attraction is the result of a woman meeting a
man who understands how attraction works... and
who knows what to do in each specific situation to
progress to the next level.
The PROBLEM with ATTRACTION, and with success
with women in general is that the things you need
to DO to be successful are NOT OBVIOUS.
They're "counter intuitive", in many cases.
In other words, they're the OPPOSITE of what
you'd THINK would make sense.
You have to do things like CREATE TENSION...
stop doing something that she likes... give her
time to miss you... etc.
And if you don't understand ATTRACTION, a woman
is going to KNOW IT.
And guess what?
Single women HATE IT when a man doesn't
understand ATTRACTION and how to communicate on
this "other level".
Now that I've shared the mistakes, you need the
next piece of the puzzle. You need to get an
education on how attraction works for women... and
the RIGHT things to do up front to give her those
emotional/physical feelings inside.
Right now you're probably feeling that excited
"Ah Ha!" feeling.
That's because you understand something at a
different level... you've used your mind to
understand something complex... and you feel good
about bettering yourself.
Well this is just the TIP of the iceberg.
As educational as this has been, this is only
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