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A day after the South-South Peoples Assembly (SSPA) suspended media mogul, Chief Raymond Dokpesi, for joining ex-military ruler, Ibrahim Babangida’s presidential train towards the 2011 elections, a foremost militants’ coalition in the Niger Delta, Joint Revolutionary Council (JRC), has declared him persona non grata in the Niger Delta for the same reason.

The militants made their position known in a statement released by their spokesperson, Cynthia Whyte, on Thursday.

They warned Niger Deltans to steer clear of participating in programmes run by Dokpesi and his business interests, such as Raypower Radio and AIT.

Dokpesi is the director-general of the campaign organisation of General Babangida, who is seeking the presidential ticket of the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) for the 2011 elections.

The position of Dokpesi, an Edo high chief, is seen as being in direct conflict with the interests of the South-South which is for the emergence of President Goodluck Jonathan.

Apparently to express its displeasure, the JRC warned that any Niger Deltan “who participates in AIT programmes such as Kaakaki or advertises on AIT will be summarily punished.”

The group stated that Niger Deltans who did not support the struggle for the liberation of the region were not worthy to live among the people.

They, therefore, urged those supporting the presidential ambition of Dr Jonathan to remain resolute in the face of financial and social temptations.

The statement reads in part: “On behalf of the Joint Revolutionary Council (JRC), comprising alliance units of the Movement for the Emancipation of the Niger Delta, active combat units of the Niger Delta Peoples Volunteer Force and the Martyrs Brigade, we hereby declare Chief Raymond Aliero Dokpesi persona non grata in the Niger Delta.

“Raymond Dokpesi is a blackleg in the struggle for the liberation of the Niger Delta region and the South-South zone of the Nigerian state.

“Any Niger Deltan who will or can trade the destiny of tens of millions of Niger Delta for filthy lucre is not worthy of existence, he should not even live amongst us.

“In furtherance thereof, we demand that all Southern and Niger Delta interests should immediately cease every relationship with Raymond Dokpesi and all of his business interests.

“Government institutions and parastatal agencies, youth groups and all others are hereby warned from participating in programmes run by Raymond Dokpesi and his interests such as Raypower Radio, AIT, etc.

“Any Niger Delta interest that henceforth participates in AIT programmes such as Kaakaki, etc or advertises on AIT will be summarily punished.

“However, let us commend all those who have chosen to remain resolute and fight the Jonathan cause even in the face of grim persecution and great financial and social temptations,” the militants stated.

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ATM Procedures - Men vs Women

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ATM Procedures - Men vs Women

MALE PROCEDURE:

1. Drive up to the cash machine.
2. Put down your car window.
3. Insert card into machine and enter PIN.
4. Enter amount of cash required and withdraw.
5. Retrieve card, cash and receipt.
6. Put window up.
7. Drive off.

FEMALE PROCEDURE:

1. Drive up to cash machine.
2. Reverse and back up the required amount to align car window with the machine.
3. Set parking brake, put the window down.
4. Find handbag, remove all contents on to passenger seat to locate card.
5. Tell person on cell phone you will call them back and hang up
6. Attempt to insert card into machine.
7. Open car door to allow easier access to machine due to its excessive distance from the car.
8. Insert card.
9. Re-insert card the right way.
10. Dig through handbag to find diary with your PIN written on the inside back page.
11. Enter PIN.
12. Press cancel and re-enter correct PIN.
13. Enter amount of cash required.
14. Check makeup in rear view mirror.
15. Retrieve cash and receipt.
16. Empty handbag again to locate wallet and place cash inside.
17. Write debit amount in check register and place receipt in back of checkbook.
18. Re-check makeup.
19. Drive forward 2 feet.
20. Reverse back to cash machine.
21. Retrieve card.
22. Re-empty hand bag, locate card holder, and place card into the slot provided.
23. Give dirty look to irate male driver waiting behind you.
24. Restart stalled engine and pull off.
25. Redial person on cell phone.
26. Drive for 2 to 3 miles.
27. Release Parking Brake.
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Irate students in Abeokuta, Ogun State yesterday disrupted a campaign rally for former military dictator Ibrahim Babangida. The students then chased away Babangida’s ragtag band of campaigners from the ancient town in the southwest state of Ogun.

The students, who are members of the National Association of Nigerian Students, mobilized from various higher institutions in the state and invaded the rally organized by supporters of the former dictator.

Arriving at the Ibara neighborhood where the rally was in progress, the students sent the few pro-Babangida campaigners packing. Several eyewitnesses disclosed that the demonstrating students sang anti-Babangida and student solidarity songs before tearing down Babangida's posters and dismantling canopies erected by the campaigners.

One source told Saharareporters that the Babangida supporters put up an initial resistance, then surrendered. “They were completely outnumbered by the students,” the source said.

Babangida, who ranks as one of the hated politicians in Nigeria, recently earned the widespread condemnation when he stated that Nigerian youth were not capable of running the country.

During his 8-year rule as a military dictator, Babangida closed down national universities for several months at a time, rusticated students, fired academics and routinely jailed popular professors as well as student activists opposed to his style of governance.

One of the protesting students told Saharareporters that the attack on Babangida’s rally “is part of our continuing protest over the fact that he annulled the election of an indigene of Ogun state, Bashorun M.K.O Abiola.” Abiola, a multi-millionaire telecommunications mogul, won the presidential post in an election on June 12, 1993 that was adjudged the most credible election in Nigeria’s history. But Babangida who claimed that he had to cancel the election in the interest of Nigeria’s unity scuttled Abiola’s presidency.

The streets of Abeokuta are not the only places where Babangida's ambition to run for office is facing mass resistance. Militants in the Niger Delta are also organizing to thwart his candidature.

A press statement issued by Cynthia Whyte earlier today has declared Babangida's chief campaigner, Raymond Dokpesi, a persona non grata in the oil-rich delta. The group threatened to attack Dokpesi's business interests in the Niger Delta in the coming days.

Babangida's attempts to use popular social network sites like Facebook have met with colossal failure as well. Very few Nigerians "like" his campaign’s Facebook page. A Facebook user, Rasheed Hassan Olalere, complained on his status earlier today: "IBB, continue deleting message(s). The way you deceived Nigerians in 1985 you can't deceive Nigerians again, IBB. You are the worst leader in Nigerian history. Continue [to] block and delete Nigerians’ comments."

Mr. Olalere was furious about the penchant of Babangida's campaign staff for deleting critical messages left on his Facebook pages by angry Nigerians. Last month his campaign staff also blocked his Youtube page from receiving comments after Nigerians left an avalanche of negative posts.

Saharareporters had recently revealed how the former dictator continues to use different schemes to con Nigerians into believing that he possesses the integrity to run for office. Even so, Babangida has seen his candidacy rejected at every turn all over Nigeria.

“Babangida’s political posture does not inspire confidence even in those who want to support him,” said a former ally of the former dictator who said he is considering pitching his tent with a different candidate. He added, “Babangida seems to me to be a general in retreat.”

Candidate Babangida has been confined to his hilltop mansion, unable to physically attend campaigns after he was humiliated at Ogbe stadium in Benin, Edo state capital.

Threats by students in Ibadan forced Babangida to cancel a campaign appearance there last month.

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Eighty-seven year-old Unity Party of Nigeria (UPN) woman leader in the defunct Bendel State and mother of an Edo State Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) chieftain, Madam Grace Osaretin, was murdered, Tuesday night in Benin City.

This came just as the Edo State PDP chairman, Chief Dan Orbih called on the state governor, Adams Oshiomhole, to convey a security summit to address what he described as the increasing insecurity in the state.

Nigerian Tribune learnt on Wednesday, at the Benin City residence of Mr. Martin Osakue, the PDP chieftain and proprietor of Benin-City based Paragon Group of Schools that Madam Osaretin, his mother, was killed around 8 p.m on Tuesday.

The gunmen reportedly entered the deceased’s residence at Uwasota, a suburb of Benin City and enquired from the woman if she was the mother of Mr. Osakue.

When the woman answered in the affirmative, the yet-to-be identified gunmen were said to have shot her many times before leaving the house..

Mr. Osakue confirmed the development when the state PDP chairman and some of the state PDP leaders paid him a condolence visit and said even when no conclusions had been drawn yet, he wondered why some armed people would enter his mother’s house and killed her after she responded to their enquiry that she was his mother.

Chief Orbih, who advocated the conveyance of a security summit for all political parties and stakeholders in the state at a rally on Wednesday, in Ekpoma, where Chief Don Ehijiator, former Chief of Staff to Governor Oshiomhole and hundreds of his supporters defected to the PDP from the Action Congress of Nigeria (ACN) challenged security agencies to swing into action with a view to fishing out the killers of Madam Osaretin.

According to Orbih, the killing was a reflection of the level of insecurity in the state, which he claimed had long being compromised, adding that “Apart from total breakdown of law and order, there is breakdown of governance.”

The PDP chairman said this was the time to reject the ACN led government in Edo, pointing out that people were frustrated with the bad state of affairs brought about by the ACN administration.

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Nigerian Police, bribery, fraud and corruption




























* Citizens sexually assaulted, shot for refusing to bribe

* High-level embezzlement limits police resources

* Wealthy able to pay for private police squads

Corruption in the Nigerian police force, from armed officers extorting money at checkpoints to top officials embezzling public funds, has led to the beating and even killing of innocent civilians, a rights group said.

Institutionalised extortion, lack of political will for reform and impunity mean Nigerians are more likely to encounter police threatening them and demanding bribes than enforcing law, Human Rights Watch (HRW) said in a 102-page report.

"The long-term failure of the Nigerian authorities to address police bribery, extortion, and wholesale embezzlement threatens the basic rights of all Nigerians," said Corinne Dufka, senior HRW West Africa researcher.

In major cities across Africa's most populous nation, including the commercial hub Lagos and capital Abuja, armed police set up checkpoints every evening ostensibly to control high levels of crime, including armed robbery and kidnapping.

But the checkpoints are in reality tolls at which officers attempt to force motorists to pay money -- sometimes grinning, Kalashnikov in hand, and asking "anything for the boys?" but frequently becoming more aggressive.

"Extortion-related confrontations between the police and motorists often escalate into more serious abuses," the report, based on interviews with more than 145 victims, said.

"The evidence suggests that police officers have on numerous occasions severely beaten, sexually assaulted, or shot to death ordinary citizens who failed to pay bribes demanded."

Nigerian police spokesman Emmanuel Ojukwu said the report contained "largely embellished innuendos".

"Admittedly, the Nigerian Police Force has identified the conduct of some of its personnel in the areas of corruption, extortion, arbitrary arrests, torture and even extrajudicial execution."
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SEPTEMBER TO REMEMBER.

The Good U do in life Builds Ur CASTLES,U always VE A CHOICE 2 MAKE

I couldn't think of anybody else but you, when this opportunity for divine favour came, stay blessed .


Starting from today, you are moving from Glory to Glory; anything you lay your hands upon shall prosper in Jesus Name. Your dream will not die, your plans will not fail, your destiny will not be aborted, and the desires of your heart will be granted. This SEPTEMBER 2010, Say a big AMEN. Money will know your Name and Address from now on. If u desire to claim it send it back to me & all Ur friends. Heavens have confirmed today the end of your sufferings sorrows & pains because He that sits on the Throne has remembered u. He has taken away the hardship and given U JOY.. He will never let you down. Don't feel selfish to have these blessings alone, send it to all the people you want God to bless and remember to testify when it manifests...

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‘I was paid for body parts’


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ON TRIAL: Gcobani Gwayi, 22, in the dock in Mthatha High Court yesterday, which was sitting in Butterworth. He is accused of killing nine-year-old Vika Nqwiliso in 2008, allegedly for muti purposes. Picture: ALAN EASON






A CONTESTED confession of a man charged with child murder describes how he was promised R5000 to harvest human body parts from a living person.

Gcobani Gwayi is accused of murdering nine-year-old Vika Nqwiliso, who became the first victim in the Kei Ripper series of killings in 2008.

Gwayi has pleaded not guilty to murder and rape, and now denies confessing, saying he was “tortured” by police into making the statement .

Yesterday, harrowing details of the confession were read out in the Mthatha High Court, which is sitting in Butterworth where the crime was committed.

Two police officers also testified yesterday to validate the statement Gwayi gave them.

The accused was arrested in Cape Town seven months after the murder, in Mcucuzo village near Butterworth, in October 2008. The boy’s mutilated body was thrown into the Gcuwa River.

Gwayi allegedly told police how he was approached by a man who asked him to harvest body parts for muti.

In the statement, read before Judge Zamani Nhlangulela yesterday, Gwayi said he was promised R5000.

The trial started on Monday, when the accused took the stand and was cross-examined by State prosecutor Mfundo Makhubalo .

Two officers from the provincial task team formed to investigate Vika’ s killing, as well as other similar murders in the area, yesterday told the court how Gwayi had confessed to the murder.

“Gwayi told me what happened on that day and the money he was promised by (a man) . He was told to look for a person whom he will kill for body parts, and it was preferred that the victim must be alive at the time the parts are being harvested,” Captain Thembisile Gulwa of Dutywa police detectives told the court. Gwayi then told of how the man had dropped him in Mcucuzo village to search for a victim, Gulwa added.

He found four boys at a nearby forest and approached them, Gulwa testified . Gwayi said he had lost a cow, and asked the boys to help him find it, Gulwa said. “Then, as they were busy searching, he sat them down and he asked them if they could play a game of killing each other. The boys asked if they will wake up again and he told them that he will be able to wake them up after the killing,” said Gulwa.

The decision was to start with Vika, the youngest .

“A sharp instrument was used to cut open the boy’s chest while he was still alive, the penis was then cut off, the liver was also removed and the little finger was also hacked off. All this time the boy was crying,” read the statement by Gulwa.

“He then stopped crying.”

One of the boys apparently asked Gwayi to stop because Vika was dying.

“I told them he will wake up,” Gwayi said in the confession . Gwayi then allegedly asked the boys who would be willing to take Vika’s eye out, but none agreed because they were afraid.

Gwayi then used a sharp object and took the boy’s eye out, the confession read .

At this stage of the testimony, Vika’s mother, Nobuntu Nqwiliso , fled the court room weeping. “I couldn’t listen to that . It’s a painful statement that brings back memories of how my young son was murdered,” she said afterwards.

Gulwa testified: “All the parts that he (Gwayi) harvested were put in a plastic bag and he rushed to a car that was waiting for him in the village. They drove away and he was given R3000 and was promised the balance later.”

A second State witness, Captain Bathandwa Hanise, told the court Gwayi led them to the murder scene after his arrest .

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Pastor Rapes Pastor’s Wife Inside Church

The Pastor of Glorious Vision International Ministries, Ori Oke Ogudu, Lagos, Nigeria, Pastor Paul Nna has been arraigned before the Ogudu Magistrate’s Court charged with raping a housewife (names withheld).


P.M.NEWS gathered that the woman’s husband, also a pastor in another church sent his wife to Pastor Nna’s church to collect a bag from him.


When the victim got there, Nna reportedly told her that he's

aw a vision that there was danger lurking ahead in a new appointment she was about taking up that morning.
Nna was said to have deceived the colleague’s wife that she needed deliverance to cast a demon out of her body.


In the process he flogged her severely with broom and after she became exhausted, she fell down.


According to the husband, Charles Kukuise, before his wife could recover, Nna raped her. But immediately the woman became conscious she phoned her husband to reveal the incident to him.


Charles then reported the matter at Ojota Police Division.


He also rushed his wife to an undisclosed hospital where she was admitted.


After investigation, the matter was charged to the Magistrate’s Court.


The prosecutor, Assistant Superintendent of Police, ASP Eyo Owai docked the pastor on a one-count charge of raping the pastor’s wife.


When the charge was read to Nna, he pleaded not guilty.


The trial Magistrate, Mrs. Aje Afuwa granted Nna bail in the sum of N100,000 and one surety in like sum.


She adjourned the matter till 13 October, 2010 for trial.


—Tunmise Ige

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watch video here I wear my hair back & forth ! Willow Pinkett Smith !http://bit.ly/cgX3jQ

Watch out Rihanna, there’s a 9-year-old looking to steal your thunder.

And judging by the barrage of tweets and online buzz that followed after Willow Smith -- the youngest offspring of Will and Jada Pinkett Smith -- leaked her debut single, Rihanna and every other pop starlet should have Willow on their radar..

Titled “Whip My Hair,” the radio-, club- and recess-friendly track sounds like something that Rihanna, Keri Hilson or Ciara might have cooked up for their latest albums.

And don't let her age fool you; the song packs serious punch.

Already a red carpet veteran, the littlest Smith has made a splash with her eye-catching outfits and hair -- her asymmetric bob looks perfect to whip back and forth like a helicopter (as she instructs in the single).

No stranger to entertainment, Willow appears to have her sights set on music after racking up some acting credits. She costarred with her father in 2007's "I Am Legend" and later alongside Mom -- who also dabbled in music when she fronted her own metal band -- in the animated feature “Madagascar: Escape 2 Africa.”

Big brother Jaden had a big summer with the surprise success of “The Karate Kid,” in which he starred. Like Dad, he also added rapper to his resume after the Justin Bieber-assisted “Never Say Never,” from the film’s soundtrack, became a hit.

Rumors are swirling that Willow will be snatched up by Jay-Z's Roc Nation music label for her debut, and she already has a few famous fans in her corner.



Bieber video director Alfredo Flores tweeted, "WHAT!!??! Willow Smith just KILLED "Whip My Hair"... Rihanna, Keri, Ciara, Ashanti -- please be warned." Solange Knowles, meanwhile, raved, "Willow Smith make me wanna whip some haiiirrr in this house. Ummm kill em girl. Kill em!"

Give a listen to the track below and tell us what you think.


watch video here I wear my hair back & forth ! Willow Pinkett Smith !http://bit.ly/cgX3jQ

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'Dumb and dumber' pet thieves wrestle python.

Two "dumb and dumber" alleged ...

Two "dumb and dumber" alleged pet thieves wrestled a stolen python in a McDonald's restaurant carpark as astonished customers looked on, Australian police said Thursday.

The men, aged 22 and 24, struggled with the 1.5-metre (five feet) snake, named Boris, which was "not happy" at being removed from its container after being stolen from a Melbourne pet shop.

"In all honesty, it's just a case of dumb and dumber," Detective Sergeant Andrew Beams told public broadcaster ABC.

"Anyone who gets out there with a one-and-a-half metre python in a McDonald's carpark, they're pretty dumb."

Totally Reptiles owner Jodie Graham said Boris, who is safely back at the pet shop, has a "very nice personality" and was upset at not being handled properly.

"He was a bit cold and stressed so I have him in the tank warming up. I am just glad to get him back," she said.

The two men were arrested and charged with offences including burglary and theft.

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4 Men Rape Girl, 11, Infect Her With HIV




Four men at Ilasamaja area of Lagos State, South West Nigeria, have allegedly raped an 11-year old girl and infected her with the dreaded HIV disease.

•Jimoh Ojo.

The girl, name withheld because she is a minor, lives at Richard Abimbola Street, Ilasamaja with her father, Mr. Taofeek Daudu, and her stepmother Kafayat Daudu and had just finished her primary school education.
One of the suspects is Mr. Jimoh Ojo, an okada rider, who lives in the same house with the victim. The victim’s father is the landlord of the house while Ojo is his tenant.

Ojo has been arrested by the Lagos State Taskforce and is currently being detained. During his interrogation, he named three other men who also took part in raping the girl on different occasions.

The doctor attached to the Social Welfare Department, Lagos State Ministry of Youth and Social Development has tested the girl HIV positive. Ojo was also tested positive to the dreaded disease and is feared that he might have infected his wife with the deadly virus.

P.M.NEWS gathered that the four men had been having sex with the little for the past three years, with the last romp carried out by Ojo taking place on 28 June, 2010.

The other accomplice, whose names were given as Sunday, Ojo’s wife’s brother; Ade, a cousin to the raped girl and a man simply called ‘Yellow’ because he is light in complexion, are now at large.

The mother of Ade has been arrested and detained pending when her son, who is said to be in Ondo State would show up at the taskforce office and would be made to undergo HIV test to see if he too was infected.
The sex romp was exposed when the victim left her father’s house to spend the holiday with her mother, Mrs. Latifat Daudu, who had parted way with her husband.

The little girl suddenly became seriously ill and on interrogation by her mother, she revealed that the four men had been having sex with her. This led her mother to take her back to her former husband’s house where she revealed the whole secret.

At the Office of the Youth and Social Development where the girl, her father and the accomplice were taken to yesterday, the little girl allegedly confessed that Ojo had sex with her five times, while the other three men also had carnal knowledge of her.

According to her, it was Ojo who deflowered her three years ago and that the affair had continued since then, saying that he last slept with her in June.

On interrogation, Ojo, a father of a 10-year old girl, confessed that he slept with the victim on two occasions, but the girl cut in and insisted that he slept with her five times.

Ojo attributed his promiscuous act to the devil, saying “it is the work of the devil”.

According to him, the little girl used to knock at his door at night after he had returned from his okada business to tell him she was hungry, saying that in the process, he sometimes had sex with her and gave her N100 as compensation.

He added that he had slept with her in the bathroom on one occasion, saying that she normally complained that her family did not always take care of her.

Father of the victim, Taofeek told P.M. NEWS that he was not aware that Ojo used to sleep with his daughter in his own house, saying that immediately he discovered that, he gave the accomplice two weeks quit notice.
The victim’s step mother debunked claims that she did not take care of her, which was why she went to Ojo’s apartment to beg for food.
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In one fell swoop; President Goodluck Ebele Jonathan has retired the inspector general of police, the director general state security service and three service chiefs..

The new service chiefs are:

Air Chief Marshall Petinrin (former Chief of Air Staff), who is to serve as the chief of defense staff (CDS)

Major General Ihejirika is the new chief of army staff (COAS)

Air Vice Marshall M. Umar, was appointed the new chief of air staff(CAS)

Rear Admiral O. Ibrahim will serve as chief of naval staff (CNS)

President Jonathan also appointed Hafiz A. Ringim as new the Acting Inspector General of Police, while Mr.Ita Ekpeyong will serve as the new Director General of the State Security Services (SSS).

In a media advisory issued by Ima Niboro, the Special Adviser to the President on Media and Publicity, President Jonathan said,

"the appointment is with immediate effect, subject to the confirmation of the National Assembly, subject to the Armed Forces Act, section 18(cap a20 laws of the Federal Republic of Nigeria 2004)."

"The president thanked the outgoing service chiefs, whose tenures allegedly "expired in August", for their outstanding stewardship, loyalty, and defence of the constitution of the Federal Republic of Nigeria.

The president also thanked the outgoing Inspector General, Ogbonnaya Onovo, and outgoing DG SSS, Mr. A.A Gadzama, for their dedication to service of the fatherland and wished them well in their future endeavours.


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Jonathan replaces police boss and service chiefs

President Goodluck Jonathan has changed the leadership of the Nigerian Armed Forces and the Police Force with the appointment of new service chiefs and an acting Inspector General of Police.

The newly appointed service chiefs are: O.O Peterin, Air Marshal, - chief of defence staff; O. A. Ihejirika, Major General, - chief of army staff; O.S Ibrahim, Rear Admiral, chief of naval staff; and M.D Umar, Air Vice Marshal, - chief of air staff.

The president has also appointed Hafiz A. Ringim as the acting Inspector General of Police, and Ita Ekpeyong as the new director general of the State Security Services (SSS).

The new appointments were contained in a statement by the special adviser to the president on media and publicity, Ima Niboro, which explained that "the appointment is with immediate effect, subject to the confirmation of the National Assembly, subject to the Armed Forces Act, section 18(cap a20 laws of the Federal Republic of Nigeria 2004)."

According to the statement, the president thanked the outgoing service chiefs, whose tenures it claimed "expired in August", for their outstanding stewardship, loyalty, and defence of the constitution of the Federal Republic of Nigeria.

The president also thanked the outgoing Inspector General, Ogbonnaya Onovo, and outgoing DG SSS, Mr. A.A Gadzama, for their dedication to service of the fatherland and wished them well in their future endeavours.

Mr. Onovo has come under severe criticism over the increasing spate of kidnapping across the country, particularly in the south-east region.


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Connecting with an Ex on Facebook

Facebook clocked half a billion users this past month. I know almost everyone reading this, if not all, has an account on Facebook. Today's debate Tuesday is about connecting with exes on Facebook.

facebook.jpgI joined Facebook several years ago as a Masters student but only recently started actively using it after publishing A Heart to Mend. Before then, I was hidden and I frequently culled my friend’s list for those who I felt were not necessary to be there. I wanted my friends list to remain less than 100, and it remained so.

Now as an Author and to promote my book, A Heart to Mend, I’m back to using the media, and my friends list is over a thousand and growing. I’ve added some of those culled people again, among them so-called toasters, chykers and boyfriends. Having heard some tales from friends, and read some articles, I’m left wondering if I’m making a mistake.

Let me back up a bit. When one gets into a new relationship, the expectation is that both people cut any close ties with their exes. Though some of us choose to remain friends with them, it is physically easier to distance ourselves from exes. What happens is that you start hanging out in new spots with the new love, or you establish a new set of friends. The BB messages, phone calls and emails also reduce drastically with the old flame as time passes and both of you pick up new interests and drift apart.

On the web, it may be a different and difficult ball game altogether especially on Facebook. You have their status update automatically popping up on your newsfeed and the same thing happens when they add new photos. Some of us may even feel like the former girlfriend or boyfriend is taunting us. This is most likely the case when these updates have to do with the ex having found a new person. Imagine seeing that red heart which Facebook uses to denote changes to relationship status. I guess it would irk some people to see their ex hook up with someone else just days or weeks after their break-up while they’re nursing a bruised heart.

So what to do? Some people say they will never add their boyfriends as Facebook friends in the first place, and will remain as single until they’re married. I understand not broadcasting that you’re in a relationship which may end up as transient, but not adding the person as a friend doesn’t really sound realistic. Others say they will remove those friends once they become exes. Sounds more doable, at the same time, you may come across as churlish and bitter and who wants to be the one who is worse off by a break up?

Let’s even talk about people who are in exclusive and defined relationships or now married. A lot of us prefer to be ostriches about past sexual or relationship history. For those who do know, do you insist your partner removes all the exes from their friend list? Or do you encourage your partner to add their exes? I’m one who believes in not burning bridges and have found myself doing the latter. I add old flames and ask Atala to feel free to do the same.

Of course, one part of my mind expects that the reconnections will stay superficial. But what if it doesn’t? What if old embers burst back into flame during the course of a cursory Facebook chat? What if you open the door to the kind of ex that will leave hurtful messages that can be misconstrued by those reading. You know the kind of suggestive insinuations that can even set off the person you’re now with?

What do you think and what would you do?
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Rosh Hashanah DAY !

Rosh Hashanah (Hebrew: ראש השנה‎, literally "head of the year," Israeli: Hebrew pronunciation: [ˈʁoʃ haʃaˈna], Ashkenazic: ˈɾoʃ haʃːɔˈnɔh, Yiddish:[ˈrɔʃəˈʃɔnə]) is a Jewish holiday commonly referred to as the "Jewish New Year." It is observed on the first day of Tishrei, the seventh month of the Hebrew calendar.[1] It is ordained in the Torah as "Zicaron Terua" ("a memorial with the blowing of horns"), in Leviticus 23:24. Rosh Hashanah is the first of the High Holidays or Yamim Noraim ("Days of Awe"), or Asseret Yemei Teshuva (Ten Days of Repentance) which are days specifically set aside to focus on repentance that conclude with the holiday of Yom Kippur.

Rosh Hashanah is the start of the civil year in the Hebrew calendar (one of four "new year" observances that define various legal "years" for different purposes as explained in the Mishnah and Talmud). It is the new year for people, animals, and legal contracts. The Mishnah also sets this day aside as the new year for calculating calendar years and sabbatical (shmita) and jubilee (yovel) years. Jews believe Rosh Hashanah represents either analogically or literally the creation of the World, or Universe. However, according to one view in the Talmud, that of R. Eleazar, Rosh Hashanah commemorates the creation of man, which entails that five days earlier, the 25 of Elul, was the first day of creation of the Universe.[2]

The Mishnah, the core text of Judaism's oral Torah, contains the first known reference to Rosh Hashanah as the "day of judgment." In the Talmud tractate on Rosh Hashanah it states that three books of account are opened on Rosh Hashanah, wherein the fate of the wicked, the righteous, and those of an intermediate class are recorded. The names of the righteous are immediately inscribed in the book of life, and they are sealed "to live." The middle class are allowed a respite of ten days, until Yom Kippur, to repent and become righteous; the wicked are "blotted out of the book of the living."[3]



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For secular Jews


It would happen each fall around the Jewish new year. At the very time when renewal was in the autumn air, Arnold Barnett, an engineer from Moorestown, would go into a mild funk. His wife eventually figured it out: He was less than enamored with high holiday synagogue services.


"He simply wasn't engaged by what went on inside our Reform synagogue, or with the traditional approach to Judaism," said Ellen, 70. "I knew he was struggling. So sometimes, I would just go to services alone."


Then last year, the Barnetts saw a small notice in a local Jewish newspaper about a recently formed group in South Jersey. "We went to a meeting that was focused on Jewish history," Arnold, 71, recalls, "and that was something I could relate to. It was much more appealing."


And so the Barnetts will celebrate Rosh Hashanah, which begins Wednesday at sundown, by meeting Sunday with like-minded members of South Jersey Secular Jews - a group of people who may or may not believe in God, but do believe in caring about the world and one another, respecting and understanding Jewish history, and celebrating a culture that has meaning and emotional pull.


"The most important aspect of secularism is the survival and continuity of the Jewish people," said Paul Shane, a native New Yorker now living in Philadelphia and married to the daughter of Holocaust survivors.


Shane, 75, a member of the more established Philadelphia Secular Jewish Organization, believes humans are responsible for what happens on Earth. The here and now is central, and actions speak louder than words.


That philosophy resembles traditional Judaism. But secular Jews and traditional Jews part company when it comes to accepting religious dogma.


If you're secular, God is optional. (Traditional Judaism has "God at its heart. That's not an option," said Rabbi Ethan Franzel of Main Line Reform Temple Beth Elohim in Wynnewood.) Also, life-cycle events are handled individually - for instance, there are no set burial or wedding traditions in secular Judaism.


Of course secularism, in which one adheres to cultural norms rather than religious ones, is hardly new. During the Renaissance, from 1450 to 1600, and the Enlightenment in the 18th century, many Jews shed the God-oriented elements of their Jewishness, according to Shane, a professor of social policy at Rutgers University in Newark. That shedding also continued in the late 19th and early 20th centuries.


What's different today is that a growing number of secular Jews are finding one another, forming groups, and practicing the social responsibility Judaism requires - minus the synagogue.


Rifke Feinstein, executive director of the national Congress of Secular Jewish Organizations, says there are approximately 2,000 affiliated secular Jews in the United States. But because seculars typically are unaffiliated, and therefore uncounted, estimates for the entire American secular population range from 8,000 to 40,000.


In the Philadelphia area, there are six such organizations for secular Jews - including the five-year-old South Jersey Secular Jews - all under the local umbrella cooperative venture called Kehilla for Secular Jews.


For many people, discovering that such an organization exists has been a relief.


" 'I thought I was the only one!' is what people often express when they discover that they are not alone in their secular relationship to their Jewishness," said Larry Angert, 59, a member of 11-year-old Shir Shalom: A Havurah for Secular Jews. "The Jewish tent is big, and there's room for all of us in it."


Some local secular groups, like Philadelphia's Sholom Aleichem Club, which started in 1954, and Philadelphia Workmen's Circle, founded nationally in 1900 to aid Jewish immigrant workers and to promote Yiddish, have graying memberships. Bob Kleiner, 85, of Elkins Park, a retired sociology professor at Temple University, and his wife, Frances, a teacher of Yiddish, both long active in the secular movement, lament that younger people are not actively involved in these historic groups.


But the formation of new groups, such as South Jersey Secular Jews, is evidence the movement still has traction.


Credit Naomi Scher, 64, of Cherry Hill, whose children attended the Jewish Children's Folkshul, another Kehilla group, which is a parent-run cooperative held at Springside School in Philadelphia. About 100 children receive their Jewish education, not in a traditional Hebrew school but in classes that nourish social justice and individual responsibility. Bar and bat mitzvah aspirants undertake personally meaningful projects that they ultimately share with the entire Folkshul community.


Although Scher formed relationships with parents of her children's classmates, commuting to Philadelphia became burdensome once her children graduated, and in 2005, the retired social worker decided to start a secular group closer to home.


What began as a gathering of eight to 10 people now regularly attracts 30, meeting monthly with speakers who address social and political concerns, Scher said.


Deborah Chaiken, 74, of Palmyra is delighted to have a group close to home. "In the formal Jewish community, I felt that I didn't really have a voice. Here, I know that I do."


Dues are $25 a year, and participants are asked to bring food for potluck dinners. Meetings are held on the second Sunday of the month at Unitarian Universalist Church in Cherry Hill..


South Jersey Secular Jews members Cary and Bilha Hillebrand of Cherry Hill call the group a welcome addition to the local landscape. For Bilha, 54, the philosophy of the group is more in keeping with that of her native Israel, where the majority of the population leads a more secular lifestyle.


"We are not in any way antireligious," says Cary, 60. "We hold the belief that we are responsible for what happens to ourselves and to the world. And to us, that's the essence of what religion is, and should be."






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facebook and couples...

Mercy Johnson is about to get married... but the guy in question say she must abondon Face book.. or the marriage is canceled

these days, Couples are very afraid of FACE-BOOK, they believe that FACE-BOOK
is the author of infidelity in relationships.. but that's a big flying
Lie.

i have my elder sister and her husband as friends on FACE-BOOK.. i
even have their son's pix in my album.. you see its all about trust..
...if the guy and girl have trust for each other.. Not even HAND-BOOK can come between them..

bottom line.. i think couples should worry less about FACE-BOOK... and worry more about the trust they have for each other

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Thousands of apparently single women fought, shoved and screamed at the gates of the KICC over the weekend as they scrambled for space to hear the
“apostle of marriage,” Nigerian Pastor Chris Ojigbani..

As the heavens opened up, the enthusiastic women paid little attention to damage done to their hair and makeup in their attempt to outrun police
who were trying to turn away the crowds from the already packed KICC
plenary hall. For several hours, business came to a standstill as police
and security guards from the KICC and the Covenant Singles and Married
Ministries struggled to keep the thousands of women at bay.

“Sweetheart, the hall is full,” a security man in a black suit speaking in Nigerian pidgin told the crowds of women that kept pushing forward. The
high-flying youthful founder and senior pastor of the five-year-old
ministry was in the country for the first time to conduct a seminar on
‘‘how to get married without delay’’.

Although results of the 2009 national census released on Tuesday put the ratio of Kenyan men and women at one to one, at KICC there were 500 women for every man --
and most of them were either members of the security detail, sound
engineers, technicians or journalists.

The man of the moment, Pastor Ojigbani, who preached for more than four hours on Friday, told his ecstatic audience: “Good men are not all taken. Photo2:Pastor Chris By the
end of today, you will get your suitor … The spirit has told me that one
of you by morning will have four suitors … Now, who will you choose?”

Even before the event was over, dozens of women went to the stage to testify that they had already received marriage proposals, most of them via
cellphone. On his knees, Martin Opiyo, a 25-year-old marketing executive
with OneStop East Africa, proposed to hotelier Elizabeth Mahanga after
he responded to her phone call, went to find her at the KICC, and said
he had been “touched” by the preaching..“Our parents were
against our union and they forced us to separate but, through the
pastor, we have vowed to get married,” the two told the Sunday Nation. In
the world of those with troubled marriages, the Nigerian’s name has
become synonymous with hope. And when he talks or writes about it, he
really sounds convincing. “Who do you think God created men for if not
for you?” he asked the crowd.

“I have organised events for the last 10 years, but I have never seen one like this,” said a KICC official, who cannot be named as he is not authorised to speak to the
press. The KICC plenary hall holds 10,000 standing people. At the
weekend event, there were both seated and standing people in the hall.
In addition to connecting lonely hearts, Pastor Chris is also a
successful businessman. To some, he is mysterious; to others, just a
business-minded charismatic preacher.

His handlers are not easy to get along with. And the preacher doesn’t help matters as he rarely grants interviews. “If you want to speak to him, call later,” his
handlers told us. For the past two days, that has been the answer from
Gertrude, the woman in charge of his itinerary.

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Who lodged N9.3bn into my bank account?

WHAT has remained a puzzle to Ade-yemi Durojaye, a Higher National Diploma (HND) 1 Student of The Polytechnic, Ibadan, is the identity of the person who lodged N9,309,019,869.91k into his savings account.

More puzzling, however, is the swift manner with which the money disappeared from his account without any trace of it in his statement of account..

According to the civil engineering student, he had a little over N3,000 in his account and was going home for the weekend on Friday, 13th August, 2010.

So, Durojaye went to the First Bank of Nigeria Plc, Ibadan Poly 4 branch, with the intention of cashing N2,000.

It was about 6.57 p.m., so, he had to use his Automated Teller Machine (ATM) card.

"I was perlexed when I printed out my receipt and saw the balance in my account. I became weak and tired. Nine billion, three hundred and nine million, nineteen thousand, eight hundred and sixty nine naira, ninety one kobo. How did this amount get into my account?" I wondered.

To authenticate the ATM's claim, he withdrew N20,000 from the amount. But on Saturday when he went to check his account again, the money had disappeared from his account..

He, however, went to report the incident to the manager of the bank, a woman, on Monday morning.

He declared his intention to return the N20,000 he withdrew from the amount. The bank manager gave her approval but collected the triplicate copy of the teller which Durojaye used to lodge the money into his account.

Durojaye later collected his statement of account, which had no record of the over N9 billion in it.

Although it has the record of the N20,000 which he refunded, that had also disappeared from his account, leaving a balance of a little over N1,000.

When the Nigerian Tribune visited the branch on Wednesday, the manager was said to be on leave while the Branch Operation Manager, claimed ignorance of the incident and referred the Nigerian Tribune to the bank's head office in Lagos.
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The Ogun State Police Command yesterday sealed off the state secretariat which houses both the Governor’s Office, and the House of Assembly at Oke-Mosan, Abeokuta. Police said it was necessary to prevent factions embroiled in a tussle over the leadership of the assembly from gaining entrance into the premises.

However, civil servants who saw fully armed policemen cordoning off the area, fled their offices to avoid becoming victims of the fracas.

The Police spokesperson in the state, Muyiwa Adejobi, said the command took the action after receiving information that hoodlums were planning to burn down the complex. Asked if the command got its directive from Abuja, he said he was not aware of any such orders. “I am not aware of any directive from Abuja to close the gates, if there is such, it has to be from the Inspector General of Police to the Commissioner, we only move to ensure peace following information that some hoodlums were planning to burn the place and some other areas in the state”.

As early as 7am, policemen led by the Commissioner of Police, Musa Daura, arrived the premises of the secretariat, and the two gates leading into the premises were soon manned by armed officers.

Living in fear

Most workers who fled their offices said they were afraid of being attacked by supporters of the factions who may mistake them for opponents.

Speaking via the telephone, the impeached Speaker, Tunji Egbetokun, said his group of G-15 remains intact, but will not be employing any violence. He also said members will soon find a place to convene a meeting.

“We are still much in control, no cause for alarm. The mace, which is the assembly authority is still with us, and we are going to get a conducive place to do our sittings.”

Late yesterday, sources say President Goodluck Jonathan will be meeting with Mr. Egebtokun’s group in Abuja. This may be an indication that members have the ears of the president especially since Gbenga Daniel did not attend the meeting Mr Jonathan held with all the Peoples Democratic Party governors last night.

Claims and counter claims

The new Speaker, Soyemi Coker, said he is unable to say on which specific date his team will start sitting in the assembly, but denied that the mace used for the impeachment belonged to the Abeokuta South local government..

He told journalists shortly after visiting the secretariat of the PDP in Abeokuta with four members of his ‘G-9’ team that the ‘G-15’ lawmakers cannot hold the state to ransom. “I cannot be specific when we are going to start sitting in the house, can you yourself as journalists be specific when you are going to get back to your home? Also it is not correct that we used the mace of the local government, a mace is a mace” he said.

Mr. Coker said the new leadership is grateful to Mr. Daniel who they visited shortly after the impeachment of the former leadership, to inform him of the change of guards.

The Abeokuta South Local Government also denied that its mace was used during the impeachment. The Leader of the councillors, Fatai Adeleke, said, “I want to ask Mr. Egbetokun if Abeokuta South Local Government was inscribed on the mace he claimed belonged to it. Let me also say that the Chairman does not in any way interfere with the affairs of the legislative council, not to talk of having access to the legislative mace.” He said the allegation was a figment of Mr. Egbetokun’s imagination, demanding that he apologises within 12 hours or be sued.

A two time governorship candidate of the National Conscience Party in state, Lanre Banjo, said the manner in which the nine lawmakers impeached the Speaker, using what he called “armed robbery tactics,” should be condemned.

He said, “The first business of the day after entering the premises of the Assembly, like Shina Rambo, was to reinstate the suspended members of the house to swell the numbers of pro-executive members of the house to eleven (11) and to strengthen their quorum for the resolutions they were about to pass. Except that impeachment requires a minimum of 16 members.”

Mr. Banjo appealed to all those he called elders in the state to intervene in the crisis.
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Boko Haram attacks Bauchi prison

Suspected members of the Islamic sect, Boko Haram, yesterday evening attacked the Bauchi central prison and set the place ablaze and freed members of the sect who were jailed there following last year’s unrest. Other prisoners were also reportedly released by the sect members.

The prison is close to the palace, and the emir of Bauchi, Muhammadu Rilwanu Suleyman Adamu, reportedly went into hiding shortly after the start of the exchange of gunfire between the assailants, men of the Nigeria police force and prison guards.

Panic

People in the adjoining communities fled their homes shortly after the attack on the prison. Confirming the attack, the Bauchi State police commissioner Danlami Yar’Adua told a foreign news agency that ”the Bauchi central prison was attacked this evening by people believed to be members of Boko Haram in an attempt to free their comrades,” he said, adding “They arrived at the prison and began shooting sporadically to gain access, but we deployed our anti-riot policemen, who engaged them and contained the situation.”

Reports out of Bauchi however say the attackers succeeded in freeing the inmates, and at the time of going to press, sporadic shots could still be heard around the town..

The attack comes after a recent spate of deadly shootings in states across the region which have been blamed on members of the sect who have allegedly been regrouping and stocking-up weapons in a bid to launch another major attack.

Boko Haram which means “Western education is a sin” launched an attack in July 2009 calling for Sharia law to be imposed on the entire country. A military onslaught by the Nigeria army led to the killing of over 700 members of the group including the leader Muhammed Yusuf.

Mr Yusuf’s death in police custody generated a lot of controversy.
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What is Nigeria? A pervasive pathology?

It all started as a mere discussion between two friends, but later graduated into a hot argument. The topic was Nigeria’s 50th independence anniversary . One of the friends,whose views appeared radical throughout the discussion, asked, “what is Nigeria, after all?” His friend looked down, sipped from a glass of red wine on a stool in front of him, pretending he did not hear the question. Impatiently, the questioner answered the poser himself, “Nigeria is a slowcoach personified, a giant snail on a time-bound race, a vitiating slob wobbling and hobbling along with a deflated pride, a destroyer of efforts and waster of destiny, a disgrace to the black race, a nation of wimpy and embarrassing leadership, a cocoon of absurdities defined by poverty, violence, kidnapping, kleptomania, witchcraft, killings.”

The other friend looked on with his mouth slightly agape, almost doubting the source of such vitriolic verbal punches on his fatherland. He just couldn’t fathom the seething rage going on inside his friend, that any Nigerian could throw such verbal salvoes at his country with reckless abandon and without any sense of remorse at all. How could this idiot paint the picture of Nigeria in such atrocious and graveyard language? After all, the country has been through many challenges, yet came out of them triumphant. “Leave Nigeria alone, if you can’t praise its efforts at overcoming its numerous challenges,” he warned his friend.

Scenes like this are common, especially in places where people have become grossly disenchanted with happenings in the country. At different fora, many individuals, who feel things should not have gone awry for Nigeria, have often wondered what is wrong with the country.

What is Nigeria? Would it not be appropriate to rephrase the question and alternate its syntactic structure to see whether it would generate mild and benign responses? Can we then have, “Nigeria is what?” No! No!! It should be reworded to incorporate elliptical possibility, thereby leaving rooms for variance of opinions, “Is Nigeria what…?” Is Nigeria worth what it was at independence? Irrespective of differing opinions on this poser, the apparent response to it is “no.”

Nigeria is a country, no doubt. the most populous black nation on earth, a land flowing with milk and honey, yet in the hollow of poverty, corruption and mismanagement. A country that has numerous capacities to develop, but has blatantly refused to do so, for reasons best known to it, apology to Mrs. Clinton.

An elderly man, who was nearby and piqued by the noisy dimension the argument between the friends had assumed, joined them. At this time, the two were shouting at the top of their voices, as none of them was ready to shift ground for the other. The elderly man tried to mediate and offer some explanations. Hardly had he finished speaking, when the “abuser-of-my-fatherland” friend intoned, pointing his index finger threateningly at the man, “your generation destroyed this country.

You milked it dry and left it sapped of energy and hope. Generation of looters, generation of people with unconscionable character, who should pitch their tents with the swine…” The elderly man couldn’t take more. His eyes were bloodshot. To avoid confrontation, he merely walked away with his head drooping.

Of interest to any keen follower of happenings in Nigeria should be the question raised by one of the friends. What, in the true sense is Nigeria? Is Nigeria what it was at independence right now? Is it worth being called a nation? A lot of questions with few answers, that is what Nigeria is. You are left benumbed and completely sad when you learn that this nation was once a darling of all, an admiration of sort at independence, but has quickly become in Africa what Haiti is in the Caribbean.

In his assessment of the country at a programme, tagged “Trustees of Posterity”, organised by the Joint Campus Fellowship, University of Ibadan, recently, the convener of the Save Nigeria Group (SNG), Pastor Tunde Bakare, blamed the misfortune that has befallen the country on the poor, ineffectual leaders directing the affairs of the country.

The leaders, whom he called “charlatans in the corridors of power (and) demonised persons”, have slaughtered the nation on the altars of avarice, greed and corruption.

He lambasted the leadership of the nation, holding them responsible for the woes that have crippled the socio-economic and political life of the country. He urged the generality of Nigerian youths to take up the challenge and chase the corrupt leaders from power.

In a pamphlet by SNG titled, “A Contract to Save and Transform Nigeria: Manifesto for Liberty, Security, and Prosperity Nigerians must insist on”, Nigeria was deconstructed as “a tale of arrested development and regression, punctuated by episodes of progress.”

SNG, in the pamphlet further explains, “on every major index of human and economic development, Nigeria is a failure, a tragedy for most of its people who have had their chances hobbled by a system that has benefited a tiny few. Its citizens daily confront a state that is violent, but ineffectual; grasping, but unaccountable, and thus far incapable of guaranteeing security of life and property or fostering conditions that enable the fruitful pursuit of happiness.

At independence in 1960, Nigeria was celebrated for its potential, the magnitude and variety of its people, the enormity of its landmass and the sheer abundance of its natural resources. 50 years on, the talk about Nigeria is still about its potential, simply because it has failed to realise its promise.

In that interval, many countries that were her peers in underdevelopment have made accelerated transitions to development within a generation, replicating in decades progressive attainments that took centuries in the West. This speedy leapfrog was accomplished by leadership that successfully built state and governance structures that were conducive to economic and human development. The success of the Asian Tigers elevates humanity, and it is a ringing indictment of those that have mismanaged Nigeria because their excuses have been repudiated.

Nigeria is just not working. The tragedy of Nigeria is a pervasive pathology. Its leadership selection process excludes its best ,while celebrating mediocrity. The incremental influence of that pathology has created a failing state that is unable to do much more than uphold the conclave of looters that hold the country hostage…

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